My last post was about men, so I’ll continue with my promised blog about women. I wonder why I made such a bold promise because I really would need to write a whole volume of books in order to truly discuss women. Women are complicated. However, for the sake of this post, I’ll offer a few simple words of wisdom directed toward men in relationships with women*:
Men,
1. She needs to feel loved by you. She needs to hear that you love her, find her attractive, desirable, and that you appreciate her. She might know that you love her, but she needs to feel it. She needs to hear it and see it. Believe me, a little note left in a place she’ll find it can go a long way. Or send her a text in the middle of the day saying you were thinking of her. Romance doesn’t have to be complicated or expensive.
2. Listen and pay attention. You don’t have to understand everything she’s saying. You’re not a woman, you won’t understand all her emotions—however, if you can reflect (or repeat) what she’s saying back to her, she’ll feel heard. Also, ask her about her day and listen to what she says. Look at her. Does she look tired? Offer a backrub. Did she get a haircut? Tell her it looks beautiful. Did she clean? Thank her.
3. Feeling loved and heard is a turn on.
4. You might have sex more if your wife feels loved, heard, and appreciated. Just sayin.
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* As usual, I’m writing in generalities. This does not describe every woman and we are certainly all unique.
